In an email, a reader suggested I take up the subject of the murderous army psychiatrist in Texas. I had not paid much attention to the awful tragedy; I find it helps me little to follow such events. In fact, I get demoralized thinking about the wretched state of modern culture, where fallible humans can handle weapons capable of wiping out dozens of lives in just a few minutes. The first news reports, to the extent I could not avoid the headlines, seemed to indicate the guy ’snapped’ because of impending deployment to Iraq. That would have made a more interesting and less inflammatory subject, but now there are suggestions he had ties to Muslim extremists. Predictably, that possibility has summoned the nastiness out of the rotting foundation of this country’s democracy. A senator from Illinois is blaming Barak Obama, because the President’s father was Muslim. His comment lacks honor, like much of what I hear today. Regardless of how one feels about the leader of this nation, accusing him of causing this nightmare is simply silly and opportunist. But this is not a political blog, thank God. Since it’s so sparsely read, I imagine I can get away with the fractious sentiment I just inserted. But I’ll say no more along those lines.
That a psychiatrist committed such an act, and that there is at least a suggestion he did it because of mental stress, is interesting to me for other reasons. In general, people do not expect well-educated, successful, established doctors to lose their grip. I was once insane (technically, ‘psychotic’.) And I was once a physician. Unless you count depression as delusional, I was never out of touch with reality and practicing medicine at the same time. The point, however, is that lots of training and responsibility are no insurance against insanity. (Whether this particular psychiatrist lost contact with reality, or committed insane acts with full awareness of the humanity of those he was killing, is immaterial to my point. Either way, he quit acting in a rational fashion—and I would hold that to be true even if he killed because of extremism.) Mental illness, unlike humanity, does not discriminate. All races, classes, occupations, genders, and ages can be struck by it. Yes, the psychiatrically disordered as a group have less-than-average income and living standards, but poverty is more often an effect than a cause of psychiatric conditions.
Not very long ago, I tried to become a psychiatrist (I also applied to PhD and master’s programs in psychology;) this was back when I still sought a ‘secure’ career. Now I am only interested in writing, and can be free in what I reveal about myself. But when I was still interested in working as a clinician, being open was a risk. And I was too open in my applications. Foolishly, I thought having a life history saturated with family and personal mental health problems made me a better candidate. I thought the admissions committees would recognize my increased empathy toward patients, and better understanding of their situations. Instead, I was told I showed ‘lack of boundaries,’ and demonstrated ‘too much self-disclosure,’ to be a successful applicant. Personally, I think this was code that told me they did not want to knowingly accept someone with a history of psychosis, however remote and circumscribed it was. At the time, I felt furious. Friends encouraged me to launch anti-discrimination lawsuits. Obviously, the programs did not want to accept a psychiatry resident who might go on to, for instance, fire upon dozens of people at an army base. My belief is that they could have looked at the utter absence of violence in my story, and seen that a childlike conviction that God walked beside me was fundamentally different from being lost in a homicidal obsession. Or that a single event many years ago, one prompted by an antidepressant drug, did not put me in the mass-murderer category.
There is such fear of mental illness, however, that no one wants to take responsibility for making such distinctions. It’s easier to just be cautious and say ‘NO.’ I encountered the same roadblock at Big Brothers, Big Sisters. After a long vetting process, including interviews and fingerprinting, the director of our local chapter told me they could not accept me because of my psychosis history. I don’t think the guy even knew the precise meaning of the word, ‘psychosis;’ it was just too scary and seemingly too risky for him to accept. I thought the way I’ve overcome a stormy upbringing, broken family, history of child abuse, and so on, would help me be a good mentor to a troubled youth. But by being honest, and admitting my psychiatric problems, I ruined my chances.
I understand better than before why many African-Americans are burdened with chronic anger. It is maddening and humiliating to have people judge you on the basis of category rather than capability. To have skin that is brownish rather than pinkish, and so be out of the running regardless of who you really are, must be an excruciating experience. Fortunately, overt racism is no longer tolerated. But the historical memory, and covert discrimination, will continue to harm for a long time.
There is little societal proscription against discrimination on the basis of mental illness. There are laws, but people ignore them. Few seem to think twice before making jokes about ‘crazies.’ A few days ago I was drifting (there was almost no wind) in a sailboat under the Golden Gate Bridge. The group I was with had been put together through an online social network. I did not know any of them. Naturally, at some point people asked me what I ‘do’ for a living. The answer is complicated, but mainly I write. Not for a living, but as an occupation and with a tiny prayer of someday making money. The next question, ‘what do you write about,’ brought us to the topic of mental illness. With my usual lack of boundaries (vide supra,) I told people that my interest in the subject started around the time my mother killed herself.
An hour later, when we approached the Golden Gate Bridge, someone brought up the fact that plans are in place to put a net underneath to curtail the frequent suicides (which average two a month.) One enlightened sailor retorted, “Aw, just let ‘em all jump!”
I was too shocked to respond at first. Was he being deliberately cruel to me, after what I said about my mom? Or was he just ignorant and rude? By the time I organized a response, the conversation had moved on. I tried to bring it up again, but someone changed the subject before I got too far. So I gave up, and came home feeling very different from ‘normal’ people.
I started this post with the intention of writing about how despair and mental illness can strike anyone. I ended up talking about discrimination. Both are important subjects, but I find writing about them in this direct way less engaging than my more emotionally immediate pieces. The best solution to ignorance and prejudice is to enlighten others by putting human and close-to-home faces on psychiatric conditions. That is the direction I am hoping to go with my writing. Not addressing discrimination in exposition, like I just did, but by helping others glimpse the inner landscape of mental distress. My hope is that I can help people who, like me, battle psychic demons. I also pray that I can move people who think they are ‘normal,’ and harbor hostile attitudes about mental illness, to adopt a more compassionate stance.

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Alison Rising at http://alisonrising.blogspot.com
I really enjoyed reading this post. It always amazes me that with all the exposure that mental illness seems to get (you can’t watch TV for more than 15 minutes without being bombarded by commercials about antidepressants), people are so freaked out by it. I think people are just afraid that by being exposed to it, they will somehow succumb to it. Raising awareness about mental health is a noble cause, and it makes me realize there is much that can and should be done. I don’t know why I never thought of this before, but it could be a career path that brings some meaning to my life. Thanks for getting the gears turning in my brain!
Take care,
Alison
Posted at November 10, 2009 on 5:37pm.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
Alison–
That is absolutely wonderful! The need is vast and immediate, and I am sure you can help. The more of us pounding the drum, the more people who understand mental illness demanding to be heard and respected, the better. I feel honored that you found my post useful in coming up with ideas for your future.
Best wishes.
–Will
Posted at November 10, 2009 on 6:21pm.
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jss at http://jssfive.blogspot.com
I am currently reading a booked entitled ‘An Unquiet Mind’ written by Kay Redfield Jamison who is herself a trained psychologist and who has worked in some pretty high up on the food chain academic environments. It is her memoir of her struggles with manic-depressive illness and what a story it is.
This post elicits so many possible responses that it was hard for me to narrow it down to one lest I end up writing a novel. Suffice it to say that books like these from people like her are what we in need far more of. Not only that but it is a heck of an interesting read. Who needs fiction when there are so many stories from real human beings waiting to be told. We are most definitely not alone in a crowd.
Posted at November 11, 2009 on 5:52am.
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WonderingSoul at http://unattractivenavalgazing.blogspot.com/
Always reading Will.
Your comment about coming back feeling very different to normal people”, I think I felt just a fraction of what that must have felt like. Bit close to hell I imagine.
Posted at November 11, 2009 on 9:00am.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
JSS–
Never hesitate to leave a novel. You have found my tome on your own blog by now, no doubt. I felt I had to write the story, because I think it is something that can provide perspective to those who, like me, contemplate suicide. The more we see and understand about our condition and our choices, the better informed we become. My story is just my story, but I hope it will help others.
I read Jamison’s work about eight years ago, shortly after discharge from a psychiatric unit. I have not thought much about it since. There is also a famous psychiatrist who has schizophrenia. Obviously, there are mental health organizations that are open to accepting clinicians with major psychiatric diagnoses. No doubt my applications to training programs must have had other flaws, but I do think I’d have stood a better chance if I’d downplayed my symptoms more.
My plan is, in fact, to write the countless charged stories from my past. I left one on your blog (feel free to delete it, by the way–I’ll understand.) We are not alone, and the more of us who speak up, the less alone we’ll feel.
I’m so glad you started looking at my blog; it led me to your fine work. I am adding you to my bloglist, though my small audience may not translate into many new readers. But I love what you wrote today.
Best Wishes.
–Will
Posted at November 11, 2009 on 12:51pm.
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lostinamaze at http://inamaze.wordpress.com
I have not found my courage yet to disclose to others my mental condition. I hear the talk and jokes around me about ‘crazies’ as well. I even hear about it in a lot of the music that I listen to. One time a counsellor said to me “it’s just like having diabetes or some other chronic physical disease”. I had to disagree because I don’t hear people talking about the physical in the same manner as the mental stuff. Some days I can’t believe this happened to me and am still trying to figure it out. I do realize now that mental illness is no respecter of persons, not that I was anyone special.
I think for the most part people fear the unknown and for some reason in this day and age mental illness still seems to be largely unknown even with all the knowledge out there. Or maybe people resist knowing because the fear acts like a block. Whatever the reason I hope one day to have the courage to put a face to my mental illness.
Posted at November 11, 2009 on 10:51pm.
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susan at http://ifyouregoingthoughhellkeepgoing.blogspot.com/
Couldn’t sleep and thoughts running around my head about this. Try to write clearly.
I was in a newsroom, when two stories broke. One was the Phil Hartman murder/suicide. I was new, and the comments, first shock, went to bad jokes about his wife being bipolar. I had bit my tongue so hard it bled in my mouth, but I kept quiet, petrified someone would look or bump into my purse and the lithium would spill out. The other story, again, about someone who may not have been mentally ill but did have a personality disorder- was the Andrew Cunnan spree killing when he shot Versache. Oh my, the jokes, puns. A younger employee might have ran down to HR to complain. Me, I just bit my tongue, petrified I would be outed. Jokes again from one or two when we reported Columbine- but I think that was more from shock than anything else. (Killers must have had a bad day and skipped their meds, jokes), and some real bad ones from the DC sniper as well. I was so glad I don’t work in a news room last night. The jokes would have been heart breaking.
Maybe it comes with the idea of covering news, you see things you don’t neccessarily want to see. Who knows.
What fascinates me about the Golden Gate Bridge is according to Schneidman and Fabrow, – (sorry spelling), that people who are afraid of heights don’t jump, never jump, but others get fixated on the bridge and have to jump. No other place will do. The Bay Bridge doesn’t get suicides.
Jumping is a way I could never go. I am so afraid of heights. I wouldn’t even drive over one of those bridges. I’ve joked to my family, if they ever find out I have jumped, call the cops, I have been murdered.
Posted at November 11, 2009 on 11:18pm.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
Susan–
There is an exception to every rule. I loathe being in high places, but through my entire life whenever I used to get suicidal, I thought of the bridge. Many times I forced myself to look over the edge, trying to work up the courage to jump. It had to do with the time (I was about four) my mother showed me a picture of the Golden Gate Bridge, and spoke wistfully about San Francisco. It left me with an odd feeling of connection between the bridge and broken dreams. We lived in Minnesota at the time.
Whenever someone commits a mass murder, they are automatically labelled mentally ill. I believe all unprovoked violence is a form of mental illness (including invasion of one country by another,) actually, but somehow the fact that the murderers are the ones who put the public face on mental illness really rubs me the wrong way. Where is Mozart? Winston Churchill? Abe Lincoln? Earnest Hemingway? Or even the modern celebrities who’ve ‘come out?’ We are left with a picture of mental illness as this purely negative, horrible, homicidal aberration. In fact, some of the most creative, driven, valuable people are tormented by it. Not to mention how much art flows directly from psychic pain. If we lived in any kind of sensible culture, the newsrooms would balance presenting mental illness in a sociopathic context, with some effort to show its effects when it occurs in a creative individual with an eye or ear for beauty.
–Will
Posted at November 12, 2009 on 7:19am.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
lostinamaze–
My life now revolves around my writing, and my writing is all about mental illness. But even before I seldom hid my problems. That’s just the way I am. My wife hates how public I am with my issues. Maybe it comes from feeling like I once was a hot-shot surgeon, and used to be an OK sculptor (before my neck issues ended both activities;) if I could accomplish those things, then there must be something OK about me even if I suffer this condition. Plus, I truly don’t see mental illness as purely negative. It really does fuel many creative and valuable endeavors (see my comment to Susan.) So I’m not ashamed of it, even if others think I should be. One goal of mine is to push the face of mental illness into the face of those who believe they are immune to it. Make them see the humanity of it, and how the feeling of being mentally ill is often just a heightening of the normal sorrow and agitation of people in that hum-drum, boring, middle of the bell curve.
–Will
Posted at November 12, 2009 on 7:27am.
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mysadalterego at http://mysadalterego.wordpress.com
I once caught a trauma case in the ER, and the trauma surgeon refused to operate because it was presumed to be a suicide attempt. One of the worst moments in medicine ever.
Posted at November 19, 2009 on 1:28pm.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
mysadalterego–
Awful story. Depending on the prognosis (i.e., unless s/he could have argued the case was hopeless and inoperable anyway,) I suspect the surgeon could have been indicted, or at least sued. Would s/he refuse to operate on a chronic smoker with lung cancer? An obese person with a foot infection due to adult diabetes? A motorcycle rider? People destroy themselves in all kinds of ways, and physicians still have a responsibility to help them. I used to encounter this in a very small way as an oculoplastic surgeon. Someone would come in with a botched cosmetic eyelid procedure. Since I worked at an HMO that did not cover esthetic surgery, some tried to argue that they ‘brought it on themselves,’ and that repairing their eye should have been looked at as a continuation of the cosmetic work. But much of surgery is about fixing our bodies after we abuse them or make dumb choices. Medicine is supposed to be about compassion, which means recognizing every patient’s humanity, and accepting his or her flaws. Suicide attempts aren’t even stupid habits, like smoking, but desperate efforts to escape Hell. At the time of the attempt, the victim believes relief will never come short of death. It’s not an easy out. For that surgeon to refuse to help was criminal; if not in the eyes of the law, then in the eyes of God.
It’s too bad people who have never experienced profound, suicidal depression can’t be given a brief taste of it, so they’d understand. I suppose my goal in writing is sometimes to try to convey the torment. Of course, most of my readers (at least on this blog) are all-too-familiar with psychic pain already. But I have dreams of someday reaching a larger audience. Don’t we all?
Thanks for commenting.
–Will
Posted at November 19, 2009 on 3:28pm.
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Veronika Noble at http://www.nobletherapist.com
BEAUTIFUL WILL!!! WOW!! I look forward to catching up on your gifts you have presented to us in cyberland!! –
Posted at December 26, 2009 on 10:04pm.
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Veronika Noble at http://www.nobletherapist.com
BEAUTIFUL WILL!!! WOW!! I look forward to catching up on your gifts you have presented to us in cyberland!! –
Posted at December 26, 2009 on 10:04pm.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
Thank you, Veronika. I looked over that piece again after seeing your comment. With a newly critical eye, I can see how it could be shortened and tightened, like most of my writing on this blog. But I’m glad you like it even in its current form. Best wishes.
–Will
Posted at December 27, 2009 on 9:15am.