At long last I’m reading the Bhagavad Gita. This classic Hindu text has been suggested to me many times, but I’ve never picked it up before. Although I’ve long felt familiar with its themes through various lectures and reviews, there’s nothing like actually working with the book itself.
For one thing, it shows me how much of Buddhist philosophy was built on Hindu principles. “Krishna” teaches about human afflictions and their mastery with meditative practice in language that sounds quite similar to the Buddha’s. For some reason, reading the Gita is helping me absorb some important truths that I’ve resisted before now, despite having heard them in Buddhist contexts for years.
The Buddha spoke of desire, anger, and ignorance as the major obstacles to realization. The Gita brings up the same three afflictions and identifies their close relationship. It explicitly points out that anger is the natural outcome of desire, which after all gets thwarted more often than satisfied. Psychologists studying infants have found that at the earliest ages of human life a baby will display what looks like anger if you keep him or her from reaching an enticing toy. And so it goes throughout life: we become angry, even enraged, when the world prevents us from enjoying what we want.
We want respect and the world ignores us; we get mad. We want love and our partner seems distracted; we get mad. We want money and financial institutions drain the system dry; we get mad.
If we never wanted the respect, love, and money in the first place, we’d sidestep a lot of frustration.
The connection between anger and desire seems clear, but the ultimate source of misery is ignorance. We mistakenly believe we can create happiness by getting everything to work out the way we want. Once we find a satisfying relationship, a spacious home, an exciting job, financial security, a happy family, good friends, and worldly recognition, we’ll finally settle down and enjoy living. Problem is, we can seldom get all those planets to line up and stay in place. One or another of our precious spheres will inevitably wobble, gyrate, or escape us completely.
So a life driven by desires is doomed to feel unsatisfying. The world simply does not feed our every whim. And even when a hunger gets sated, the nagging feeling of want returns before long. Seeking happiness by following desires leads to frustration, not happiness.
We should remember that desire can make us ache for many things, material, interpersonal, and philosophical: for possessions, for food, for sex, for love, for power, for conformity, for freedom, for politeness, for justice, for equality, for safety, for health, etc., etc. Some of these hungers are more ethically defensible than others, but the world cannot be expected to consistently satisfy any of them. The failure to recognize this inescapable truth is the base ignorance that underlies most of the world’s problems.
This is all spelled out clearly and poetically in the Gita. It especially resonates with me right now because of my recent inner conflict about writing a book. The main motivation for that project was a need for recognition, not a calling to help others. Both aspects were at work in my psyche, but the egoistic hunger for accomplishment was dominant. I was being driven by desire.
This wish for approval runs very deep in me. As a schoolchild I was often complimented on my intelligence. In college and graduate school, professors continued the flattery. Even though I had few friends, I could always use my supposed intelligence to bolster my self-esteem. But the accolades placed expectations on me that I internalized over time. I began to desire greatness.
One world-renowned surgeon signed a personal note in a copy of his book predicting that my accomplishments would eventually eclipse his career. Very heady praise that now sounds rather poignant, seeing how my climb toward success first stalled and then became a tailspin.
I wanted very much to be a recognized authority, to be acclaimed as brilliant. It was a desire that drove me into fields that promised status but not satisfaction. It kept me from following my truer calling, from finding my essential bliss. It was not my friend.
Desire never is a friend of the soul. It is an outgrowth of animal hunger and the shiny bauble of human ego. It leads to endless cycles of craving, transient fulfillment, and recrudescent craving. It is the engine of addiction and the wellspring of hell.
Of course, recognizing desire’s toxicity doesn’t make it go away. That requires lots of meditative work and deep introspection. It takes time and commitment. I have a long way to go down that road but today, with the words of the Bhagavad Gita ringing in my mind, it seems like I might just find true freedom someday.
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KC at http://YourWebsite
Your words ring true and I imagine would translate into many spiritual beliefs well and into many hearts should we so desire to follow the thoughts you present today. Yes, I used the word desire intentionally.
Your personal story of climbing the ladder to acclaim and greater brilliance yet taking a more humbling approach to life reminds me of Saul of Tarsus who was high up in the pharisee hierarchy then one day found himself and his life turned into a much humbler situation. Interesting that in his desire to be humble, he became well renowned. I smile at your thought of writing a book not because I don’t think you could but because of my personal desire to write books that were well known and well read. I’ve completed one, outlined others, queried publishers and if you google books written by me you’ll come up empty.
I’ve not read the Bhagavad Gita so I don’t know what it does with the apparent paradox of desire for greatness and acclaim versus the desire to be humble and at peace. I’m behind in reading your posts so you may very well have clarified that already.
Grace and peace,
KC
Posted at October 31, 2011 on 5:53pm.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
KC–
Well, I just completed a post that touches on the distinction between healthy desire and unhealthy craving. Certainly the former is preferable, but Eastern traditions go further and suggest we can release all preference for one outcome over another. The frustration of the book business, which you describe well in a single sentence, is one of the factors that keeps me from going forward. Before I shoulder that burden, I want to be sure my motives are pure. That way I will be free of all those sticky desires that currently trip me up. Thanks for the comment.
–Will
Posted at October 31, 2011 on 6:06pm.
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mary at http://YourWebsite
Hi Will,
I think that desire is part of our wiring and we can’t control the urge anymore than we can not scratch an itch. I do believe that expectation, not desire, is the root of all heartache. Desire can lead to change and growth. Expectation is a form of entitlement,(” which leads to disenchantment” you once said. ) Your desire to accomplish a goal is only corrupted if ego steps in and expects success–which is a gift.
I will wait for your book Will…
mary
Posted at November 1, 2011 on 10:51am.
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Will at http://willspirit.com
Mary–
Writing about this topic brings up a lot. It’s not possible to do the subject justice in a few short essays. Your distinction between desire and expectation makes sense to me, although it probably comes down to semantics. In any event, I am not sure that the original sanskrit word that gets translated as ‘desire’ means the same thing as the English word. Naturally we need some source of motivation for all action. If this is what we consider desire, it would be hard to completely eliminate it. But if desire refers to something more akin to hunger, then limiting its influence would be healthy. I’ve so far written three posts on desire, and this one you’ve commented on is only the first. Hopefully my position will become more clear (both to my readers and myself) as I write more.
Thanks for the comment.
–Will
Posted at November 1, 2011 on 4:21pm.