5 Tips for Healing after Childhood Adversity

1. Reframe Vulnerabilities Those of us who experienced abuse, grief, or neglect during childhood feel different from those who didn’t. We are more easily hurt, which leads to withdrawal or rage. We feel less confident in ourselves, which leads to … Continue reading

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Those Absolutely Essential Truths I Can’t Remember

My dog fell ill, and I forgot every healthy lesson life has taught me. Ralphy, an eleven pound mass of gray white fur and–I believe–the most affectionate companion in the world, has been one of my steadiest supporters for seven years. Saturday morning, … Continue reading

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There’s No Such Thing as an Adverse Childhood

Adverse (ad´vərs, ´advərs; adjective): preventing success or development; harmful; unfavorable. Definitions matter, because the words we apply to our lives influence whether we feel hopeful or discouraged. Can a childhood be adverse? Events during childhood can certainly be harmful and unfavorable. And yes, painful formative … Continue reading

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Childhood Suffering and the Promise of Freedom

Can you imagine feeling grateful for childhood adversity? Though such sentiment would once have seemed absurd to me, it’s now an established feature of my life. This striking shift in outlook prompts me to start a new blog. More than five years ago I launched an online journal called WillSpirit … Continue reading

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Announcing: Peace, Love and Childhood Adversity

Please visit my new blog: Peace, Love and Childhood Adversity, hosted by PsychCentral.com. The essays will explore the central topic of recovering from childhood hardship from many directions, all in service of one healing message: vulnerabilities traceable to such history can, with the right … Continue reading

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